It’s the question that parents all around Australia are asking …

“How am I supposed to keep my kids safe online … when I have NO IDEA what they’re doing?

Don’t listen to all the fear-mongering and hysteria about ‘banning’ apps or devices, or trying harder to ‘control’ your child.

The truth is, parents CAN let their kids use the internet to do the things they enjoy, and keep them safe at the same time — and my new Safe on Social Toolkit can show you how!

“How can I keep my kids safe online?”

Ah, yes … I get that question almost every day.

My name’s Kirra Pendergast, and over the past five years I’ve taught online safety to more than 400,000 schoolkids (and their parents).

And now, for the first time, I’ve taken everything I teach in my nationally-acclaimed seminars …

And I’ve created the Safe on Social Toolkit: a digital ‘survival kit’ of everything parents need to know to keep their kids safe on social media right now.

But before I tell you about it, let me be completely upfront with you:

  • Unlike many of the helpful services I offer to parents, this is a paid (not free) service.
  • It’s not a magic software solution that instantly makes social media “disappear” from your child’s life — i.e. you’ll still have to be very involved as the “parent”, and do the work of building a relationship with your child.
  • And it’s not appropriate for every parent. (e.g. if you’re already incredibly tech-savvy, or your kids are 18+, it probably won’t help you)

So please read this letter carefully before you decide to buy it!

That said, for parents who are worried about what their kids are doing (and seeing) online … my new Safe on Social Toolkit could be the most powerful tool you’ve ever had for keeping them safe.

And in case you aren’t yet convinced of why most parents NEED something like this in their back pocket, this chilling story will do the trick …

Kirra Pendergast, CEO of Safe On Social Media

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The Safe on Social Parents Toolkit

  • 365 days of unlimited access
  • 50+ constantly updated videos and cheat sheets on services like Instagram, YouTube, Snapchat, Tik Tok, gaming, and dozens more
  • Includes ongoing updates and alerts
  • Email Q&A service — get your questions personally answered by a cyber safety expert

Recently, I gave an ‘online safety’ talk to a group of schoolkids.

Part way through, I asked them a strange question:

“Who here has had a stranger on Instagram ask them for a picture of their feet?”

The teachers in the room were confused … but the kids knew what I meant.

Instantly, about a dozen hands went up.

One particular boy — he was 12 years old — told me he’d been contacted by a man online:

The man told him he was studying podiatry in Eastern Europe, and needed a photo of a young Australian boy’s feet. (To compare to the children in Eastern Europe, of course.)

So this boy — being naturally trusting, as most kids are — happily sent back a picture of his feet.

What he didn’t know was that he was being “groomed” … and this was just the first stage of something much worse.

The man came back and thanked the boy for his picture. Just what he needed, he said.

But then, he had another request: for some more … inappropriate photos.

Of course, the boy wasn’t that naive. He responded: “Come on, I’m just a kid!”

The reply he got couldn’t have been more chilling:

“I’m 37 years old, and I think I’m in love with you.”

It gets worse though.

The stranger then started sending him a flurry of pictures of himself.

They showed him sitting at a dinner table … 

With another man …

And a whole group of other young boys.

Does that make you feel ill? 

Well, the part that should scare you is what happened next:

The boy responded, quite naturally, with a bunch of curse words — telling the stranger to “get f...ed”.

But then … he didn’t tell his parents about what had happened.


Because he thought he’d get in trouble … for swearing.

By the time I found out about this incident, six months had already passed — and he was still too afraid to talk to his parents about it.

The only reason this story ever got told was because I knew what to ask for with my ‘strange’ question about feet.

And it begs the question: 

As parents, how much is going on with our kids that we just have no idea about?

Trust me, this is just one example of literally hundreds I’ve come across, where kids are being exposed to things their parents have no clue about.

Horror Stories I’ve Encountered …

  • Online predators

    In another online stalker case, a young girl was asked for nude photos from a man online. She simply replied “WTF?” Yet again, because she thought she’d get in trouble, she never told her parents about it.

  • Cyberbullying

    A young boy told me about an Instagram account that someone had set up in his name. This fake account only shared nasty things about the boy and his sister. But they didn’t tell their parents, because they were terrified of being banned from social media.

  • Inappropriate content

    A girl in Grade 3 received a message which was supposedly from the celebrity dancer Maddie Ziegler. The message from “Maddie” said: “I am feeling very sad today, and the only thing that will cheer me up are naked photos of you.”

  • Sexting

    A teen girl sent a shot of her breasts to a boy she met online. He told her that he’d taken a screenshot of her friends list, and would email the photo of her breasts to everyone if she didn’t send more.

Most of the time, kids won’t proactively talk to you about these things.

So if you don’t have a good idea of the kinds of things kids are doing online right now, or how to get on the front foot and talk to your child about it … this could be happening to them, without you knowing it.

And here’s the worst part:

Just ‘limiting screen time’ doesn’t keep kids safe from any of it.

That’s usually the first thing parents try.

But let’s face it: no matter how much you crack down on social media, you can’t control what they do at school, with other family members, or at a friend’s house.

Of course, using software solutions to try and ‘block’ or ‘control’ access doesn’t work either. Trust me, kids are always one step ahead of you, and they’ll find a way around it.

And trying to keep up with “free” information online is a losing battle, too. There’s so much it’s overwhelming, yet most of it is out of date — and do you have the time to try and keep up with it all?

Besides, if all you’re looking for is a way to ‘crack down’ on your child’s social media use … 

You’re asking the wrong question!

We live in a digital world now. Our kids are going to need to use these things one day as they grow up. So just ‘controlling’ and ‘blocking’ can’t be the only answer.

Ultimately, you want to keep your kids safe without depriving them of the things they enjoy, or letting them have fun with their friends.

That’s why I take a different approach to most other online safety ‘experts’.

I believe that, with the right guidance, any parent can make social media a safe and productive environment for their kids.

That’s what I teach thousands of parents a year around Australia through my seminars — and I want to show you how to do it, too.

No guilt. No shame. And no overwhelm! 

That’s why, for the first time, I’ve put all my very best tools and strategies from my seminars into a single online package that any parent can access, anywhere, any time.

It’s called … 

The Safe on Social Parents Toolkit is a digital ‘survival kit’ of everything you need to know now to keep your kids safe on social media. 

I spend dozens of hours every month talking to parents, teachers and students, keeping up with what’s ‘hot’ with kids right now. And nearly every single week, I update the Safe on Social Parents Toolkit with the latest of what I’ve learned.

You’ll find the answers to all your most pressing questions (and the questions you don’t even know you have till you’re up at 2am, frantically looking up the app you’ve found your child using).

With the Safe on Social Parent Toolkit in your back pocket, you won’t need to be anxious about what your child is doing, or scared that they’re hiding things from you.

  • You’ll know the apps they’re using. 
  • You’ll know the dangers they face. 
  • You’ll know the steps to take to keep them safe. 

And — which is your best defence of all — you’ll know how to talk to them about what’s going on.

Like I said before, the Safe on Social Parents Toolkit isn’t a substitute for parenting. It’s not a magic button. But it WILL give you the confidence you need to know you can guide your child safely through social media.

I’m constantly updating the toolkit — but here’s a taste of what’s inside right now:

  • Why the Instagram account your child shows you probably isn’t their real one. (I’ll explain the FIVE accounts most kids have, and how to tell the difference. Module 6)
  • How to stop your children from being ‘too trusting’ and handing over personal details to predators. (Module 6)
  • A ‘secret setting’ — buried seven layers deep in your child’s phone settings — that’s recording a minute-by-minute history of where they’ve been for the last few years. (Almost nobody I talk to has ever heard of this feature, and they’re in shock when I show them just how much data it captures on their kids. I’ll show you how to turn it off. Module 3)
  • The disturbing new app that’s being described as “Tinder for Teenagers”. (And worst of all, it actually gives complete strangers a direct link to your child’s whereabouts. I’ll tell you what you need to know so you can make a decision for your own kids. Module 20)
  • The REAL average age of the people your kids are gaming with online. (If you’ve told your kids only to play with their friends, this will shock you. Module 7)
  • A common social media mistake that can ‘blacklist’ even young children from getting jobs in the future! (And no, it’s not “posting inappropriate photos” — it’s something much more mundane, and most kids never even give it a second thought before doing it. Module 2)
  • A look inside “Tik Tok” and the disturbing reason you should keep your kids well away from it. (Yes, this is one of the only apps I do recommend a complete and total ban on — and even though I’ve still given you options for making it safer, you’ll probably want to avoid it when you find out why. Module 13)
  • The one spot in your house you should NEVER put a gaming console. (Module 7) 
  • Everything you need to know about the ‘single most important law on the internet’. (99% of parents have never even heard of this law, even though it could have serious consequences for their kids. Module 2)
  • A hidden feature in Snapchat that can literally reveal exactly where your child is sleeping to an online stranger!

Let’s stop for a moment to talk about this one.

If you have a teen you almost certainly know of Snapchat — it’s one of the most popular apps going round.

However, what most parents don’t know is that it has an inbuilt ‘loophole’ that can allow complete and utter strangers to tell where your child is right now.

(And it’s not a ‘bug’ — it’s an official Snapchat feature, and your kids have probably even turned it on deliberately.)

If you have a child that uses Snapchat, this is something you definitely need to discuss with your kids!

But relax: in Module 8 I’ll show you, screen-by-screen, how to configure it to make it safer — and what to say to your kids to make them understand the dangers.

Here’s more of what you’ll find inside the Safe on Social Toolkit … 

  • Why your kid could be hooked on a new game called ‘BitLife’, and why you should be concerned about it. (This is one case where you shouldn’t blindly trust the ratings on the game.)
  • The 10-second “checkmark test” you can use to make sure the channels your child is watching online are actually who they claim to be. (Any account that fails this test is almost certainly an online impersonator. Module 3) 
  • A powerful ‘triple-whammy’ trick for simultaneously improving your kids’ sleep, mental health and body image. (Module 4)
  • The popular game you’ve probably heard your kids talking about that you should NEVER let them play. (It includes scenes as sick as — prepare for this — raping a prostitute on the bonnet of a car and setting her on fire. And yet I see even young kids playing this all the time. Module 7)
  • The #1 thing most parents don’t understand about the age kids can legally use social media. (Module 2)
  • 88 secret ‘emoji codes’ and ‘text codes’ kids are using in instant messages to hide explicit messages. (I’ve listed them all in a cheat sheet. I hope you don’t find any of these on your child’s device — but if you do, at least you’ll know what they mean.)
  • The cruel “14-on-1” cyberbullying trick that’s doing the rounds with kids right now. (It’s almost the digital equivalent of your child being gagged and forced to listen to a group of bullies talk about them. Module 5)
  • The disturbing “Elsagate” video trend that can psychologically damage children — and how to keep your kids safe from it. (This is particularly urgent if you have young children who watch YouTube unsupervised. Module 15) 
  • A simple tactic which you can start using this evening to build an instant “trust base” with your kids on social media. (Module 5)
  • How the ‘combination effect’ could mean your child is sharing more about their daily life than you’d expect. (In some cases, even letting online strangers work out even the exact times your child is at school or work! Module 6)
  • The one thing you must do before you share pictures of your kids in school uniforms. (Module 6)
  • One thing you should ALWAYS do before letting your child play a new online game. (And it doesn’t matter what game it is. Module 7)
  • A powerful social media “career hack” that grants your kids an instant advantage when they apply for a job!

Let me take another quick break here.

Many people get hysterical about how ‘dangerous’ social media can be, and talk about all the problems you can run into with something like Instagram.

Of course, there are dangers, if you don’t know how to deal with them (something my toolkit will show you).

And for 99% of kids, social media is almost always a bad thing when it comes time to get a job.

But I don’t want to scare you — I want to empower you.

The truth is that social media can also be an incredible force for good, too.

So in Module 6 I’ll show you a counterintuitive strategy your child can use for turning social media into one of their biggest assets when it’s time to get a job!

Here’s more of what you’ll discover inside the Safe on Social Tookit … 

  • Do your kids play Fortnite? (I’ll show you how to guard against the “Fortnite scam” that has left parents thousands of dollars out of pocket.)
  • How to deal with different social media rules between households. (Trying to manage different rules during something like a relationship breakdown can be tricky, but I can give you a strategy to help.)
  • Why using a made-up name to game online can be almost as dangerous for your child as using their real name! (Follow my tips to make sure they don’t put themselves in danger while gaming.)
  • The back-door hack that turns one of the most popular social media apps into a powerful “search engine” like Google — yet with zero parental controls.
  • At what age is it appropriate for kids to use Snapchat? 
  • Why you should never take pictures of other parents’ kids at school. (And it’s not just a legal issue — the consequences can go much further than that.)
  • The inbuilt ‘warning sign’ in most online games which could signal that you or your child are in imminent threat. (Most parents ignore this for years, and it’s putting them in critical danger! )
  • The sneaky “Angelina Jolie” data harvesting trick scammers are using on Facebook to get your credit card details. (Not just your kids, but your whole family will probably change the way they use Facebook when you hear about this one.)
  • Exactly what to do if your child is being cyberbullied. 
  • Why the wrong settings on AirDrop can lead to your teen being charged with a sex crime — even if they’ve done absolutely nothing wrong. 
  • The new “anonymous apps” that are flooding into Australia which allow people to bully or abuse your child completely anonymously. (The “root or boot” phenomenon in particular will disturb you. )
  • The scariest app of all if you have a daughter. (I’ve looked at many apps, but I consider one in particular to be the most terrifying. There are no privacy settings, no lockdown, no protections — and as you’l see, it’s particularly chilling if you have a teenage girl.)
  • And much more, including …

7 ways to make YouTube safer for your kids to watch … the quickest way to work out whether someone is a predator faking their identity… why taking your child away from their device if they’re being bullied is one of the worst things you can do … the new social messaging app that’s full of men looking for girls that will do whatever they ask on camera … and dozens more things I am updating every week as I find out about them.

And that’s not even scratching the surface!

But don’t worry: unlike my seminars, you won’t have to devote two hours to find what you need.

Everything is divided up into dozens of neatly-categorised, bite-sized videos you can watch in a few minutes, exactly when you need them. But that’s not all …

In the Safe on Social Toolkit, you’ll also get:

  • ‘Cheat sheets’ that break down exactly what you need to know about any app or service, with screenshots and detailed instructions for anything you need to do.
  • Simple but detailed explanations of all the topics that matter to parents right now — discover what you need to know about Instagram, pornography, Snapchat, Facebook, sexting, Tik Tok, Tellonym, cyberbullying, Omegle, and many more you’ve probably never heard about (but your kids have).
  • Exclusive insights from actual teenagers revealing how kids are using apps — including the things most kids will never tell parents.
  • Breakdowns of ‘terms and conditions’ and jargon from the apps your kids use, with highlights on the parts you need to know.
  • Live alerts to let you know when a new service is doing the rounds with kids — so you can stay one step ahead of them.
  • Plus you get an extra perk I don’t even offer most clients: Private Q&A email access to me and my team of experts, standing by to help answer your toughest questions.

That’s right. As part of the Safe on Social Toolkit, you get exclusive access to send through questions about your situation, and someone from my team of experts will personally answer you!

Cheat Sheets

So, here’s how to get access …

Until now, the only way to get access to what I teach was for your school to pay me nearly $2000 (plus travel expenses of several hundred dollars) for a one-off seminar.

Well, the Safe on Social Parents Toolkit is just $97 for 12 months of access.

(That small fee helps me cover the expenses of producing and maintaining the content, and lets me stay at the forefront of kids’ social media so you don’t have to.)

Yes, for less than the price of your yearly Netflix subscription, you could sidestep all the worry and anxiety, knowing that my team and I have YOUR back.

You won’t have to waste any time trying to stay up to date with things … I’ll do it for you.

You can just enjoy the peace of mind of knowing what your child is doing online, and how to confidently talk to them about it.

So if you’re tired of worrying about your child online … and you’re ready to transform social media into a positive, enriching, and worry-free experience for both you AND your child … grab the Safe on Social Toolkit today, and let me show you how.

I’ll be waiting for you on the inside!


The Safe on Social Parents Toolkit

  • 365 days of unlimited access
  • 50+ constantly updated videos and cheat sheets on services like Instagram, YouTube, Snapchat, Tik Tok, gaming, and dozens more
  • Includes ongoing updates and alerts
  • Email Q&A service — get your questions personally answered by a cyber safety expert

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